Are you a New Year’s resolution person?
We are now a couple of weeks into the year. How is it going for you?
Research suggests that while many people set New Year’s resolutions, a large number abandon them early. In fact, the second Friday in January has been nicknamed “Quitter’s Day”. Not because people lack willpower, but because lasting behaviour change is more complex than simply deciding to do something differently.
I personally do not set New Year’s resolutions. Instead, I prefer to set intentions and make gentle, realistic plans for the year ahead. I focus on small changes rather than trying to overhaul everything at once.
One reason resolutions often fail is because changing behaviour without understanding what is underneath it rarely lasts. For example, forcing yourself to go to the gym because you “should” might not work if the real issue is feeling uncomfortable in that environment. Is it the noise, the crowds, the culture, or the type of exercise itself?
When we look at the root of the behaviour, we can choose options that actually fit us. I realised I do not enjoy the noise and busyness of gyms, so instead I chose movement that feels good and sustainable for me, like walking or reformer Pilates in a quieter setting.
Another helpful strategy for behaviour change is linking a new habit to something you already do regularly. This is supported by behavioural science and habit formation research. Last year, I started a short daily meditation practice by attaching it to habits I already had: showering and having my morning coffee. That simple link helped me practise consistently, and I have now done it for over 200 days.
Changing behaviour means creating new neural pathways. This takes time, repetition, and often support. Motivation alone is rarely enough.
If you are wanting to make changes this year around fitness, mental health or anything else, and feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start, counselling can help you explore what is really going on beneath the surface and find changes that feel realistic and supportive for you.
At Calectasia Counselling, I offer online counselling for people across Western Australia. You are welcome to book a free 15 minute call to see if working together feels right.